I read this story recently, and then I heard of one of our parishioners complaining about what another one was wearing. I found this story apropos. We need to keep our eyes and hearts fixed on one thing only when we come to church. We are not the ones to judge!

A lady went to her Pastor and said ‘Pastor, I won’t be going to your church anymore.’

The Pastor responded ‘But why?’

The lady said ‘Ah! I saw a woman gossiping about another member; a man that is a hypocrite; the worship team living wrong; people looking at their phone during service; among so many other things wrong in your church.’

The Pastor replied ‘OK. But before you go, do me a favor: take a full glass of water and walk around the church three times without spilling a drop on the ground. Afterwards, leave the church if you desire.’

The lady thought: too easy! She walked three times around the church as the Pastor had asked. When she finished she told the Pastor she was ready to leave.

The Pastor said, ‘Before you leave I want to ask you one more question. When you were walking around the church, did you see anyone gossiping?’

The lady replied ‘No.’

‘Did you see any hypocrites?’

The lady said ‘No.’

‘Anyone looking at their phone?’


‘You know why?’


‘You were focused on the glass, to make sure you didn’t stumble and spill any water. It’s the same with our life. When we keep our eyes on Jesus, we don’t have time to see the mistakes of others. We will reach out a helping hand to them and concentrate on our own walk with the Lord.’”

At any church, there are going to be things to complain about. A church is filled with people, and people aren’t perfect. Only Jesus can set the perfect example, so let’s focus on Him!

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29

Fr. Ken

Community Lunch

Many of you probably know that one of my “dreams” when the parish first began in 2016, and I was named pastor, was to reach out to the greater community in a special way by providing a free lunch once a month to whoever wanted to attend. We are called to reach beyond ourselves and our boundaries and be present to others, and in doing so we bring Christ to them. Last weekend we read the Gospel of Jesus feeding the 5000 with barley loaves and a few fish. Among the many aspects that we can learn from this Gospel, which is repeated six times in the four Gospels, is that we, the community, are called to feed those who are in need. Jesus didn’t ask them who they were, what their needs were, where they came from or what they believed. He just wanted to give them something to eat.

In September, St. Mary Cause of Our Joy will begin having a free lunch for everyone in our community. It is not just for the poor, or the homeless. Anyone who may want to attend is welcome. No questions asked; no donations required. Just come and eat and spend a little time with others. People who live alone and may want a little bit of company once and a while may want to attend. People who drive old, beat-up cars and brand new, shiny ones as well. Or maybe those who have no car at all.

We are called to reach out and care for others. This is one way we can do so. Under the guidance of Paul, Sabrina and Steve, we will be gathering a team of leaders who will coordinate the lunch every month, which will take place on the fourth Thursday of the month beginning at 12:00 noon. Those people will then ask for volunteers from amongst our parish members and others as well. We will need help to cook, set up, serve, clean up, to bake desserts and maybe just to be here and greet our guests and make them feel welcome. You can volunteer just once, or once every few months or every month.

By looking outward and not inward, we will see the presence of God in the eyes of others. Please help us make this endeavor a success. Evangelization takes on many forms, and this is one of them.

Fr. Ken

Friends of the Poor Walk – St Vincent de Paul

Join St. Mary, Cause of Our Joy’s St. Vincent de Paul Conference as we walk in Solidarity as Friends of the Poor .


What: Friends of the Poor Walk
When: Saturday, September 29th
Where: Belle Isle – 2 Inselruhe Ave, Detroit, MI 48207

*$11 State Park Recreation Pass required for vehicle
(can be purchased on site)

Time: Check-in at 9:00 a.m. Walk begins at 10:00 a.m.
Who: YOU!

Lunch, T-Shirts and a great time for all!

Register or Donate to the St Mary team at

All Donations stay with our local Conference at St. Mary, Cause of Our Joy



Mass in the Grass/Picnic


NEXT Sunday, August 12

Mass in the Grass begins at:
on our parish grounds

Picnic following Mass (1:00pm)

Cost: Free

A complete hog dog lunch will be
provided (hot dog, chips, water and dessert).

Limited metal chairs will be provided. Feel free to bring your own comfy chair and a
non-alcohol drink.

Join us for a fun afternoon

Blood Drive – Wed. 8/1/18

The need for blood is constant and only volunteer donors can fulfill that need for patients in our community. Nationwide, someone needs a unit of blood every 2 to 3 seconds and most of us will need blood in our lifetime. Please Join us in giving the Gift of Life,

Wednesday, Aug 1, 2018
9:00 am – 3:00 pm
In the Large Social Hall

Drive Details:

St. Mary Cause of Our Joy Catholic Church
8200 N. Wayne Rd,
Westland, MI, 48185

Click here to make an appointment

All donors will receive a digital $5.00 Amazon gift card. Make your donation faster. Go to the day of the drive. You can do all the reading and answer the questions. You can do this on your computer or smart phone. Thank you

Thank you for supporting the American Red Cross blood program!

Download the Red Cross Blood Donor App on the App Store, Google Play or text BLOODAPP to 90999. Schedule appointments, get rewards and invite friends to join you on a lifesaving team.





What is RCIA?

The Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults is a Catholic program or education intended to instruct in the Catholic Faith those who are seeking to enter into full communion with the Catholic Church through Baptism and/or Confirmation and Holy Communion. RCIA is your compass to the Catholic Faith.

Who should look into RCIA?

  • Anyone not yet baptized.
  • Anyone baptized but not as a Catholic.
  • Anyone baptized as a Catholic who did not yet receive First Communion or Confirmation.
  • Fully initiated Catholics seeking fuller catechetical knowledge of their Catholic Faith.
  • Anyone at all looking to learn more about Christianity.

The RCIA program is led by a team who will help guide participants on their Faith Journey. In addition, participants will also have a sponsor to pray with them and guide them throughout the process. The process consists of four phases:


Initially, participants will learn the RCIA process and overview of the faith to discern whether this is the step they wish to take at this point in their lives.


Participants attend a number of classes to learn the fundamentals of the Roman Catholic Church to develop a prayer life and foster conversion.


Participants focus on self-examination, repentance and prayer in preparation for their entry into the Church.


Following the rite of initiation at the Easter Vigil, the participants are asked to define the next steps of their journey in faith. The new Catholics are encouraged to get involved in the Parish Ministries and to worship with the community they choose to join on the weekends.

If you think you might be interested in knowing more about the Catholic Faith, please call the Parish office at 734-425-4421.

Shop Kroger, Help SVdP

Shop at Kroger, Help Our SVdP

You can help our St. Vincent de Paul every time you use your Kroger Plus card!

Have your a Kroger Plus card handy (or get one from the customer service desk at any Kroger) and go to


  • You will need to Sign In or Register as a ‘New Customer’.
  • Click on My Account and use your email address and password to proceed to the next step.
  • Click on Edit Kroger Community Rewards information and input your Kroger Plus card number.
  • Enter “47927” as their NPO number
  • To verify you are enrolled correctly, you will see your organization’s name on the right side of your information page.

Do you use your phone number at the register? Call 877-576-7587 to get your Kroger Plus card number.

Now every time you swipe your Kroger Plus card you will be helping those in need in your community.

The Society of St. Vincent de Paul – St. Mary, Cause of Our Joy Conference thanks you!

Catholic Services Appeal – CSA

The 2018 Catholic Services Appeal is underway. Gifts to the CSA make possible a wealth of ministries, programs, and services that touch the lives of thousands throughout the Archdiocese of Detroit each day.

This year’s CSA theme, Opening Doors to GROW WITH CHRIST, reflects our Holy Father’s invitation to all Catholics to renew their personal relationships with our Savior, as “the joy of the Gospel fills the hearts and lives of all who encounter Jesus.”

If you have already pledged your gift to the 2018 CSA, thank you! If you have yet to make your gift, please prayerfully consider generously supporting this year’s effort. You may pledge your gift online at Your gift has a tremendous impact to countless beneficiaries to CSA-funded services in Southeast Michigan and beyond.

Please support this year’s Catholic Services Appeal by completing your pledge card and dropping it into the collection basket or mailing it to the parish office. You can also visit our site at:

Thank you!

Virtue of Humility

When Jesus wants to teach us how a Christian should be (even though there were no “Christians” at the time of Jesus), he tells us very little. Instead, he showed us. He does so by feeding the hungry, by welcoming the stranger. The love that Christ shows to others is boundless, and it surpasses anything that we can imagine. It is not always easy to understand, however God often expresses His infinite love in small, tender ways, rather than in bulky methods. The goodness and tenderness of God is most often expressed in small ways.

It would be easier to see God’s presence in mighty deeds, like the raising of a dead person to life or some seemingly miraculous sight overhead. That would almost make things too easy to believe. Instead, we need to find God’s presence in the small and easy-to-overlook simple occurrences in our daily life. In the Old Testament, we hear that the people were looking for the voice of God in the great and mighty wind, but it was not there. They sought it in the earthquake, but that was not God’s voice. Afterwards, there was a fire, but alas, God’s voice was not there. Then came the voice of God in a whisper, a gentle blowing of the wind. There was the voice of God.

We don’t need to be in the forefront, always in charge and in positions where we are seen to live a good Christian life. Working in the background, without even expressing our opinions or getting the recognition is what it means to live a Christian life. Often times those who are looking for attention step forward; they seem to be the “super” Christians. That is not the example that Jesus gave us.

A good friend of mine was the Rector of our PIME International Theology School for a number of years. I remember that I would often tell him, “Make sure you teach our future priests the virtue of humility”. He would chuckle and respond, “You can’t teach humility”. Maybe you can’t teach it, but you sure can model it, not only for future priests but for all who choose to serve the Lord. God is present in the littleness and tenderness of our actions.

Fr. Ken

Parish Directory – Online Sign Up

Missed signing up for your photo in the Parish Directory?

Monday through Friday you can do it online!

Go to:
Click: “Photography Appointment”
Church Code: MI1117
Password: Photos


Photography Dates

  • May 16th 2:00 pm – 8:30 pm – All times FILLED!
  • May 17th 2:00 pm – 8:30 pm – All times FILLED!
  • May 18th 2:00 pm – 8:30 pm – All times FILLED!
  • May 19th 10:30 am – 4:00 pm – All times FILLED!
  • June 5th 2:00 pm – 8:30 pm
  • June 6th 2:00 pm – 8:30 pm
  • June 7th 2:00 pm – 8:30 pm
  • June 8th 2:00 pm – 8:30 pm
  • June 9th 10:30 am – 4:00 pm